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Thinking Out

Marissa Alexander

My Birthday: Reflections On My Truth, Habits, and Perspective

Updated: Oct 3, 2023

My birthday is approaching and I can't help but marvel at my life’s journey - the highs and lows, joy and sorrow, the triumphs and setbacks. As I reflect, I

The Art of Grace: There will always be situations where things don't go according to plan. I’m learning to navigate the unpredictable waves of life with calm and resilience. This requires me to manage my expectations and be able to forgive others and myself. This created a pathway to peace.

Unlearning Unsupportive Habits:Over the years, I’ve built a lot of defense and coping mechanisms that were necessary, at the time. It took some time for me to realize that those were not universal tools for solving every problem. Also, I had to recognize that my personal biases were causing me to confuse problems with opportunities. This leads me to my next point.

Appreciating Different Perspectives: Everyone has their unique worldview. I became intentional about being less rigid in my thinking. I gave myself permission to consider other perspectives and challenge my own biases. Instead of stubbornly sticking to my own beliefs, I allow myself to open up to differing viewpoints.

The Power of Idling: The constant effort to operate at maximum potential leads to burnout. All my life, I’ve been on 99 or 100. Learning how to idle meant prioritizing self-care - granting myself permission to rest, restore, and rejuvenate my mind, body, and spirit. Hitting pause, and switching off when necessary, allows me the space to breathe, think, and especially to enjoy the freedom of doing nothing at times.

Showing grace under pressure, unlearning habits that no longer serve a purpose, embracing different perspectives, and learning how to idle can transform every dimension of your life. I will continue to use these guiding principles on my evolving journey. But, I think the most important lesson I’ve learned is this: Through life’s ebbs and flows one thing remains constant – growth.



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